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What is power? What is “attention”? The Good Girl Double Bind? Here is an Introduction to The Academy in 7 Questions.

In The Good Girl Double Bind, a woman can be neither too bossy nor too weak, too sexy nor too prudish – impossible compressions and contortions ensue.

For both men and women, unlearning socialized patterns of dominance and submission is the gateway to more fulfilling relationships, businesses and conversations. Here’s how to understand and navigate the power dynamics of your everyday interactions so you can lead effectively.

The Independent Woman archetype has beautiful origins. But the focus on self-sufficiency can also pressure women to hold themselves to an impossible standard of “doing it all” without any support.

Have you done anything you weren't asked to do in order to make somebody else's life more comfortable today?

And did that action go unappreciated and without payment?

Behold one of the most insidious, embedded and historically accepted power games that keep women tired and exploited: Invisible Labor. Here’s how to make the invisible visible, be valued for your contribution and reclaim your life force.

Name one Good Girl who has changed the world. You can’t. Because she can’t. It is the Good Girl’s job to maintain the status quo. But when we're living in a time when so much of the status quo no longer works for us as individuals or as communities, creating change means breaking free of the Good Girl Conditioning that keeps women trapped and unable to access their power and agency.

The natural cycles of expansion and contraction are going on around us all the time. Take breathing: as we inhale, we expand; as we exhale, we contract. Our own cycles of growth and renewal follow the same rhythms, but we often try to fight periods of contraction. Through learning to work with and honor the emotions of both states, we can live in full alignment with ourselves and others.

Culturally, we are taught to suppress our emotions and distance ourselves from them. But emotions are the gateway to increasing our vitality and locating our deepest desires. And when we know how to celebrate even the most taboo emotions and transform them into something useful, that is the foundation of true, unshakeable power and influence.

Power wielded in the name of a deeply rooted desire is the truest form of power there is, but getting to the heart of what you want can be quite confronting and difficult. Here’s how to coax out your true desires and use them in service of authentic power.